Forgive & Forget

Was reading an old fwen's blog and she mentioned about having problems with her hubby's famly i.e PIL..While, it kinda reminds me of my on situation but abit different is, the pro does not lie with my PIL but some 1 else..



It has been nearly a yr since the incident happen but in my heart I knew, no where near the future will I be able to forget this issue..This is nt about me being petty, this is about me hating unreasonable plp and the most important thing, messing up my wedding plans....



No doubts, everything went smoothly in the end, i had a beautiful wedding, happy honeymoon and best of all, a wonderful husband but time and again, i will be reminded that how things was so mess up in the 1st place that i nearly didnt want to go ahead with the wedding plans..



It was with the encouragement from my family members, my dear sisters, my colleagues and of cuz my hubs that I manage to pull thru all these and get on with the wedding preparation which was 9months ahead of plans..9 months ahead, dunno whether any 1 have any idea how rush the things got when we scrambled to take our wedding shoots, re-calculate the wedding date, re- coordinate with my fwens who all went to take leave for the new wedding date, re-calculate our budget as we brought it forward 9 months, re-informing plp of my new wedding date and gotta repeat the story to every 1 else who asked why the date was 9months earlier, re-deciding my honeymoon destination as Hubs is not able to take long leave during start of yr and of cuz money issues...



I was tired out by juz sorting out the details and get the preparations moving, money issues were solved and hubs n i decided to go for smthing simple and of cuz honeymoon is changed to Korea and with the promise that I will go on my Europe trip once he finish his degree next yr. The biggest disappointment is the date...I originally have a date that I was so happie tat is suited us but in the end, gotta juz take the limited dates i have so that i would not clash with them.



How I got thru the meeting with them without punching the daylights out of her when she tok without any sensitivity is still a mystery till date not onli with me, but my sisters/fwens who noe the story. Everytime when I see her now reminds me of the incident as thought as it juz happens yest...I dread to face her on every occasion as I really cannot get over it, I mean, which bride will forgive any 1 who mess up their wedding plans? Its a once in a lifetime issue ya noe?



I am still consider a lucky person with hubs rallying behind me, he knew of my feelings and tried to make things easier for me by avoiding meeting them too but smtimes if it is unavoidable, then i will have to live with it, but the lucky thing is, we are living on our own and basically can avoid meeting them as much as possible..



Till this day, I am still puzzled how can some 1 as unreasonable as this person exist in this world since me n hubs oredi did wat we can to avoid this incident by practically asking them for permission to go ahead with the wedding in the 1st place and onli to get the bomb at the last min...Morale of the story, when plp wants to be unreasonable, it's useless to tok reasons with them....