I am not alone

These are the exact words that my fwen told me when she learnt of my miscarriage.. It does sounds hurtful at 1st, I mean, even I am not alone, cant I mourn?

Later, when I calmed down, I start to realise, realli I am not alone in this miscarriage saga. After learning of our loss, many ard us start to share their stories with us..

My boss, lost hers at 7wks, neber got ard hafing another 1, perhaps due to her age, perhaps due to work stress, we didnt manage to find out.

My colleague's wife, miscarriage twice, but went on in between to have 2 more children.

Hubs' colleague,S, who lost hers 1st and went to haf a cute gal who is 2 years old now.

Hubs' cousin-in law, who got preggies ard the same time as me, lost hers too and she lost her previous 1 too, but had 2 healthy children before.

My twin's wife, who miscarriage twice and had just given birth to a healthy boy recently.

Hub's boss, who miscarriage and had a bubbly gal now aged 6.

Hub's accountant who also lost hers at 14wks juz 2 wks after me and is on 2 mths break now.

Even the doc admistrating GA on me, told me she suffered a miscarriage b4 going to go give birth to 2 healthy children.

The most scary 1 being, my mummy's neighbour who told me she lost hers at 5mths due to bb not developing properly.

There are many more stories I heard, many started to open up and shared their stories or their fwens' stories with us, hoping to let us noe, they feel for us, they knew wat we were going thru.

We realised nearly every other person had the experience of miscarriage be it their 1st or subsequent pregnancie.

My mum was wondering aloud the other day, dunno whether our generation are weaker or her generation is made of harder stuff.

She had 3 of us smoothly, did not even haf morning sickness!!!

Perhaps is becuz she is a stay at home mum while I am juggling new work and not to mention renovations, staying with in-laws during my pregnancy bak then.

Anyhow, though I know I am not alone, it didnt take the pain away.

Not being alone doesnt mean it doesnt hurt.

Not being alone doesnt mean it helps, in fact I dun wish for any 1 to experience this as it is realli a painful experience, physically and mentally. More so, if you lost yours like my way.

I know I am not alone, but seriously how does this help?