30's Club

In a few days' time I will be hitting the big 3. Rather than saying that I hate aging, I think I will state down reasons why I think this phase of my life is better than the period of the last decade.

1). No more identity crisis

Everyone has identity crisis at one point or another. More so especially during your teens waiting to be transformed to an adult. At this phase of life, I am glad that I finally found my own identity.  Wife of someone, direction of career. What is left now is to continue this journey hopefully without any major hiccups.

2). Able to love yourself more

At 20s, all you think is the fun you can have. Fresh out of school into the working force, I have more enegeries to burn. Reaching 30, work life balance is the essential. I look forward to knocking off on time, go for my dinner and relax and watch a show before turning in. Totally avoid weekday nights date if I can.

3). Freedom of living

Freedom of living used to be able to go out late with Mr Love without mum interfering. Now, it has changed to being able to sleep in late on weekends without  anyone interfering. Thank god for my own house.
While I used to have a curfew and our date nights are shorter,  we now can go for an impromptu mid night movie date followed by shopping at 24 hrs supermart for groceries and sleep till 12noon on the next day.

4). In the eyes of the beholder

While in my 20s I would be greatly affected of how people judge me by my actions or words, I am now quite not bothered.  Think what you like, say what you want. If I think I am right then you are wrong in my eyes. I do not need to live by anyone's standard and need not explain my standards to you too.

5). Comfortable in my own skin and body

I used to be troubled by my size and dress sense. While I'm taller than average girls, I am also much bigger size. I remember getting hurt my 1 classmate's insensitive comment during year 1 about my dress sense (I.e T-shirts and jeans). While now I can go shopping in orchard in shorts and tees along with my trusty brikins and dun give a damn how people see my dressing. If I wanna dress up, that would be because I am in the mood,  not because I needed to. And my size? They say women who are leading a happie life are more prone to weight gain. I choose to believe this is the reason why I am growing into a barrel. Besides, I also have a hourglass body which contains more sand remember?

6).Power of spending

Of course I feel much better now that I know I can afford the things I wanna buy. For example during overseas trip now, I can afford to spend a bit more recklessly as compared to my 1st overseas trip during 21 when I only brought 300bucks to Japan since I spent most of the savings on the tour package. Imagine the amount of self control I have to exercise since everything in Japan look so purchase worthy.

7). Its ok to be alone

While I still hate eating alone but I accept it better now. In fact I don't feel the pressure of hoping to be accept into any particular group.
Just like I was once outcast by my lunch kakis for not willing to join them in after work drinking cause I don’t drink and I wish to spend time with Mr Love. The end result ? I dropped out of the group and went lunch alone for quite a while till I found someone new.
At this age, I do not need to give in to peer pressure.

8). More stable love life

At early 20s where we were just together for 3 yrs, there are alot of uncertainties present. Fast forward to 10years later, things are of course more stable though sometimes we need to spend more effort to find the sparkles back. Many a time all it takes is glance or action to know what the other party is thinking. It makes life less stressful than dating stage when we try to show the best to each other. Since we have upgraded to become family, we now try to accommodate each other when we showed our worse side.

9). Faster healing period

While I used to be more affected by setbacks in early 20s, I think I can cope better now. Would just have to keep reminding myself of how fortunate I am and count my blessings and then the troubles will seem so small that it is negligible.  Hence I bounced back from bad moods faster nowadays.

10). Appreciate better

You know the feeling of being thankful for little things in life?  I am currently in this stage. Not sure whether is due to aging. A simple thing like seeing the flowers in full bloom can brighten up my sleeply mornings.

No one will know which is the best period of your life till the end of the journey. For me, this period may or may not be the best years of my life. But looking back, I'm glad that certain things happen though not all.

Those unpleasant ones will be taken as a lesson learnt or obstacle cleared. I look forward to the next milestone.  Hopefully when I look back at 40 years old,  I am also able to document down the things I learnt and matured from the experiences.

Counting down to the big 3 in exactly a week's time.