Marriage is not only a union of 2 persons deeply in luv, its a start of a long long learning process...

i was posted this question some times bak by a married gal fwen no less.."did you ever regret getting married? especially at ur age?" hmmm, the question came abit of a shock to me, for it came frm a married fwen, i mean i can understand if the person is single, but married oredi?hmmm, perhaps becuz the more shocking revelation came after the question is she did regret...

My ans was quite fast, "No, i did not regret"despite all the differences we have, despite my complaints about him, despite sometimes feeling helpless over certain issues yet i am certain tt i did not regret for i noe i luv hubs deep down...all the differences, all the issues can be forgiven n forgotten, for I have luv for him..this is my exact ans to my gal fwen...

Be it i married at 24 or 34, be it i was married for 3 yrs or 30 yrs, the reason tt we got married is becuz we were in love, our marriage did not occured becuz we need to get married but is becuz we felt we can get married already..

Though marriage life is quite different from wat i visualised, yet i still njoy it..the differences that we have, we will sort it out, the complaints we have for each other, we will try to work it out, the unhappiness we have, we will try to trash it out..it all boils down to communication and learnin to live with each other..Like i say, its a long long learning process, everyday we are learning new things bout each other, even though we have known each other for 10+ yrs, we discover new things about each other nw n then for human will change over time..dont they?

Of cuz, it takes 2 hands to clap, marriage cannot work if any 1 of the party refuse to cooperate, it cannot work, if 1 party puts in more effort than e other, it have to be equal, the 2 of them muz pace themselves, 1 to slow down while waiting for the other 1 to catch up...

Its easier said than to be done, but if u neber put ur heart in n try, u will never get it done..i am no expert in this, till nw, every now n then, we will have issues to quarrel, squabble but its my rule tat we dun leave things unsolved b4 we turn in for the day..we will start every new day, feeling the love for each other, not the resentment tat we have the day b4..this is my policy..

I sincerely wish for this fwen to be able to sort out her issues, for no 1 can help when it comes to matters of the heart, but 1 have to rememeber that yrs ago, we made this choice to start this r/s, yrs ago we made this choice to be in the union, yrs ago we were deeply in love..With this in mind, hopefully things can be resolve n be bak to normal...all the best to u pal..may u be more enlighten in ur learning process....